3. It’s supposed to be uncomfortable
I don’t know about you, but I always had this fairy tale in my head that after each session, I’d be feeling lighter, brighter, and better. And I hate to break it to you, but that’s not always how it goes: some sessions were confronting, hard, and even frustrating.
Sometimes, I felt worse than before, and I had to realize that therapy was no quick fix. That’s because you’re working through things and only after a while, you’ll see how you’ve changed for the better. And man, have I changed for the better over the course of just one year.
4. The stigma is still around
Despite it being 2020, the stigma around mental health is still very present. Luckily, people around me reacted fine, but there were some hiccups along the way. For instance, when some family members kept referring to my therapy as “going to the doctor” or when a friend advised others to not ask how I was doing or what was going on because he assumed, I was ashamed about it.
Still, I just kept bringing the topic up, not always to be a social warrior but to ask for advice, to clear my head, or to get help with assignments. (yes, you can get homework in therapy!) Not keeping my mental health issues as a dirty, little secret made it more bearable for me.
5. We should all be in therapy
The most important thing I learned is that everyone could use some therapy to become aware of how they think, act and feel, and who they truly are. Why would you not want to become a better you? It’s such an investment in yourself, like the highest form of self-care.
Of course, my wallet and I realize that therapy could be very expensive. Having to pay a lot of money makes it not accessible to everyone, which is such a shame. But luckily, therapy is more than just sessions with a therapist, for instance, you could find it in going for a walk, having a good chat with a friend, writing in a journal, having a late-night cry, or just doing what you love.